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Kingston Children and Babies Memorial Garden  


Garden Invite

We are delighted to announce that the Kingston Children and Babies Memorial Garden will officially open on Saturday 24th September at 2pm. We have worked in partnership with the Royal Borough of Kingston to raise funds to extend their babies memorial garden with bereavement services at Kingston crematorium. 


Andrew Farquharson Garden Design were awarded the contract in January 2016 after successfully bidding in December 2015. Andrew's design captured the spirit and sensitivity required for this local, collaborative project. The build and landscaping of the garden took place throughout July and August (2016). 


We are incredibly proud of the completed garden which has brought together old and new features to include distinct areas that will allow for different memorial options, for all budgets.


Garden Design



The Forget-me-not Garden

The Forget-me-not Garden formerly opened on Sunday 17 May 2015 at Guildford Crematorium in partnership with Guildford Borough Council.


It took approximately three years to complete from the initial concept stage, through the main design phase on to construction and planting. The bespoke features were also designed, created and installed. The Forget-me-not theme reflects the Sands bereavement suite at Royal Surrey County Hospital of the same name and the garden layout is that of the flower with the memorial beds creating the flower heads, whilst the paving and shrub beds create the stern and leaves.




Mother and baby deer statue

The sculpture was designed and commissioned in honeycomb granite to coordinate with the original ‘children reading on a bench’ sculpture retained from the small garden that was there originally. A deer and fawn were chosen to reflect the unbreakable parent child bond. A stunning detailed leaf shape was used for the entrance plinth and the memorials on the individual baby gardens forming the flower heads, providing the gardens internment option.



Two children sharing a book




There are memorial boulders within the rockery where each one can be personalised. Granite mushrooms provide space for memorial plaques and sit alongside the final option of the scattering lawn.


As a local group we have been incredibly fortunate to have such outstanding and dedicated fundraisers (both members and supporters) who enabled us to consider a project on this scale. Our contribution to the garden was £65,000. Guildford Borough Council has also made significant investment.


Memorial options can be discussed by appointment with Faye Brian, acting Bereavement services manager on 01483 444711.


There is a short video clip of the memorial options available. You can also read more about the options on the Guildford Borough Council website.


Memorial stone



Epsom Butterfly Garden

The Epsom Butterfly Garden formerly opened by the Mayor on 8th June 2012 was built in partnership with Epsom and Ewell Borough Council. Funded entirely by the fundraising efforts of a small group of Surrey Sands parents in memory of their babies, it took just over 2 years from its inception to raise £43,000 to complete the garden.

Epsom Butterfly Garden  

Perfectly located in the elevated south extension of Epsom cemetery it offers a pretty and tranquil place for bereaved families to spend some quiet time in thought whilst enjoying the distant views.


Defined by a low boundary wall suitable for seating and approached by a long pathway, the garden leads visitors on a journey to a central paved butterfly generously donated by Stonemarket. Here there are two benches where visitors may sit and view the two memorial walls on which parents can purchase a plaque dedicated to their baby.


Chessington Garden Centre was contracted for both the design and build of the project.

The beautiful Portland stone sculpture depicting the everlasting bond between parents and their child was designed and created by Simon Buchanan. Inscribed around the base are the words:

“There was never a time when I was not, nor you nor these children were not, nor will there ever be a time when we shall cease to be”

A beautiful slate tablet sited in the flower bed in front of the rear entrance was made and donated by Lodge Brothers. It has inscribed on it a well-known butterfly poem.

Stone tablet



Portland stone sculpture


The unique arch over the rear entrance/exit was made and donated by Fire and Iron Gallery, with some of the parents having a privileged opportunity to help make the butterflies.

Losing a baby sets parents on a life long journey of grief and those long ago bereaved often had no idea where their baby was laid to rest. Parents now benefit from a greater level of support and the opportunity to have a private funeral for their baby. The garden will provide parents of all generations whether their baby was buried or cremated a tranquil place to sit and reflect on their loss.


Garden plaques  

Reduced size grave spaces immediately outside the rear of the garden, accessed via the arch, will be reserved for the burial of babies. A small number of family pots will be reserved outside the front boundary wall of the garden for those who wish to be buried with their baby in the future.


An area for the interment of baby ashes will also be provided outside but close to the garden; there will be no facility for this within the garden itself to keep it a neutral place for all families to enjoy and take comfort from.


We respectfully ask that no gifts are left in the garden as they will be removed.

“Leave only footprints….take only memories”




Butterfly plaques may be ordered from Sue Bonner, Cemetery Manager, on 01372 732491. The cost is £130 (September 2015).


The Butterfly Garden - Sands memorial garden from Jenny Davies on Vimeo.

Redstone Babies Memorial Garden


Opened in 2003, this garden was built by Surrey Sands in partnership with Reigate and Banstead Council and Surrey and Sussex Healthcare Trust. Located within the lovely Redstone Cemetery and carefully positioned alongside the dedicated children's area, it is the perfect location for reflection. Set on a circular plot, it is fronted by two raised flower beds which provide a splash of seasonal colour. A low wall completes the circle and provides a dedicated area to display bronze memorial plaques above the flower vases below. Central to the wall is placed a poignantly inscribed tablet which reads:


"To the world a baby - to us the world. Briefly in our lives, forever in our hearts."


The garden's central feature is a working 3 tier granite fountain depicting a tiny baby held within a hand. Two stone seats facing the fountain offer a welcomed place to sit and reflect accompanied by the soothing sound of trickling water. For anyone without a private memorial site this is the most perfect location to acknowledge the life of your precious child.

Memorial plaques can be ordered by any of our members through the Redstone Office. If required, ashes can be scattered in an area adjacent to the garden.


The grassed area adjacent to the garden is now available for the planting of the Sands Charity rose "Eloise" along with a memorial plaque.  To buy your rose contact the grower http://www.jonestherose.co.uk/index.php. Delivery charges vary depending on bare root or potted.


The plaque can be ordered via the cemetery office on 01737 761592. The cost is £140 plus £10 for a motif (September 2015).


Redstone Cemetery
Philanthropic Road



Redstone garden




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